Confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s not reserved for people who “just have it together.” It’s a skill, and like any skill, you can build it. The problem? Most of us think confidence will magically appear one day, like “Oh, I’ll feel good about myself once I lose the weight/get the job/date the person.” Spoiler: that day never comes unless you work on it.
If you’ve been faking confidence or waiting for it to show up, let’s change that. These 10 hacks will have you walking into any room like you own it—without the cringe affirmations. Let’s get to it.
Let me say this louder for the people in the back: you don’t need to say “sorry” for existing. Accidentally bumped into someone? “Oops” works just fine. Don’t know the answer to something? Say, “I’ll find out,” not “Sorry, I’m clueless.”
Why It Works: Constant apologies make you seem unsure of yourself. Replacing them with neutral responses instantly makes you sound more confident.
2. Walk Like You’re Wearing a Crown
Seriously, your posture matters. Straighten your back, roll your shoulders down, and walk like you’ve got Beyoncé’s “Run the World” playing in your head. You don’t need an actual crown—your attitude is the crown.
Why It Works: The way you carry yourself changes how others see you and how you feel about yourself. Plus, good posture gives you instant main-character energy.
3. Wear What Makes You Feel Unstoppable
Confidence isn’t about following trends; it’s about finding your signature vibe. When you love what you’re wearing, you show up differently. Invest in one or two pieces that make you feel like that girl every time you wear them.
Why It Works: When you feel good in your outfit, you radiate it. Confidence is contagious—even when it starts with your wardrobe.
4. Ditch the “What Will They Think” Mindset
You’re not a mind reader, so stop acting like you know what people think of you. Most people are too busy worrying about themselves to care. And even if someone is judging you? That’s their problem, not yours.
Why It Works: Obsessing over what others think is a confidence killer. Letting go of that frees you to be yourself unapologetically.
5. Say One Nice Thing to Yourself Daily
I know, I know. This sounds cheesy, but hear me out. When you compliment yourself—out loud—you slowly rewrite the garbage your inner critic has been feeding you. Even something small like “I did a great job today” adds up over time.
Why It Works: Confidence comes from the stories you tell yourself. Make sure the story you’re telling is kind.
6. Do More Things That Scare You (Even a Little)
Confidence isn’t built in your comfort zone. Try that dance class you’ve been eyeing. Post that Instagram story. Say hi to the cute barista. The more you push yourself, the easier it gets.
Why It Works: Every time you do something that scares you, you prove to yourself that you’re braver than you think.
7. Celebrate Every Single Win
You aced a work project? Celebrate. You tried something new, even if you failed? Celebrate. Confidence grows when you take time to acknowledge what you’ve done instead of obsessing over what’s next.
Why It Works: Celebrating wins (big and small) trains your brain to focus on your strengths, not your flaws.
8. Speak Like You Mean It
Stop using filler phrases like “I think” or “I guess” when you talk. Own what you’re saying. Instead of “I think this idea might work,” say, “This idea works because…” See the difference?
Why It Works: How you speak affects how others perceive you. Confident language = confident energy.
9. Keep Promises to Yourself
Said you’d work out today? Do it. Promised to drink more water? Start now. Confidence is built when you prove to yourself that you’re reliable.
Why It Works: If you can’t trust yourself, how can you expect to feel confident? Start small and build trust one promise at a time.
10. Fake It ‘Til You Feel It
Not sure you can pull something off? Pretend you can. Confidence is like a muscle—you’ve got to use it to build it. Smile, speak up, and act like you’re already comfortable.
Why It Works: The more you act confident, the more natural it feels. Soon enough, you’re not faking it anymore.
No one wakes up one day feeling 100% confident—it’s something you create, step by step. Pick a couple of these hacks and start today. You’ll be shocked at how much they can shift your energy.
And if you’re serious about tracking your wins and building momentum, my Journal Template is a great way to stay on top of your growth.
Now go out there and own it—you’ve got this.
