Let’s be honest—low self-esteem can feel like an endless cycle of self-doubt, second-guessing, and never feeling quite enough. But here’s the thing: you don’t have to stay stuck. The version of you that is confident, self-assured, and thriving is already inside—it’s just buried under layers of negative self-talk and outdated beliefs.
Ready to unearth her? Let’s get to work.
Low self-esteem doesn’t just show up out of nowhere—it has a source. Maybe it’s from that one teacher who made you feel small, a toxic relationship, or years of comparing yourself to others. Whatever it is, identifying it is key.
Grab a journal and start digging. Ask yourself: When do I feel the most insecure? What’s triggering these feelings? Writing it down can help you see patterns and understand where these feelings are coming from. It’s not about blaming anyone (though, let’s be real, some people deserve a little side-eye); it’s about knowing what you’re working with.
2. Stop comparing yourself to others
Social media is like a comparison buffet—it serves up everyone else’s highlight reels while you’re stuck looking at your behind-the-scenes. It’s not a fair fight.
Unfollow anyone who makes you feel less-than or limit your screen time altogether. Instead of focusing on what others have, turn your attention to your own growth. You don’t have to be her to be amazing. You’re amazing already—you just need to start believing it.
3. Challenge negative self-talk
Let’s get one thing straight: your inner critic is a liar. That little voice telling you that you’re not smart enough, pretty enough, or capable enough? It’s full of it.
Every time a negative thought pops up, pause and challenge it. Ask yourself, “Would I say this to my best friend?” If the answer is no, don’t let it slide. Replace it with something you’d actually say to someone you love. Start treating yourself with the kindness you give to others.
4. Focus on your strengths
Here’s a wake-up call: You’re good at so many things. But when was the last time you gave yourself credit for them?
Take a moment to write down your strengths and accomplishments, no matter how small they seem. Maybe you’re great at making people laugh, organizing chaos, or crushing your goals at work. Shift your focus from what you lack to what you bring to the table. Confidence starts with recognizing your own worth.
5. Set small, achievable goals
Low self-esteem often comes from feeling overwhelmed or like you’re failing at everything. The trick? Start small.
Set one or two goals that you know you can crush this week. Maybe it’s drinking more water, taking a 10-minute walk, or finally responding to that email. Each time you hit a goal, you’ll prove to yourself that you can follow through. It’s like building a staircase to confidence—one step at a time.
6. Surround yourself with supportive people
If your inner circle feels more like a battlefield than a safe haven, it’s time for a change. The people you spend time with have a huge impact on your self-esteem.
Start paying attention to how people make you feel. Do they uplift you, or do they bring you down? Spend more time with those who support your growth and less with those who drain your energy. Protecting your peace isn’t selfish—it’s necessary.
7. Practice gratitude
Gratitude is like a magic trick for your mindset. When you focus on what you’re grateful for, you leave less room for negativity to creep in.
Every day, write down three things you’re grateful for—and one of them has to be about yourself. Maybe it’s that you nailed a presentation, made someone smile, or even just got out of bed when you didn’t feel like it. Over time, you’ll start to see yourself in a more positive light.
8. Take care of your physical health
Your body and mind are a team—when one feels good, the other usually follows. Taking care of yourself physically isn’t just about looks; it’s about feeling strong and capable.
Start small. Maybe it’s drinking an extra glass of water, going for a walk, or stretching in the morning. Movement releases endorphins, a.k.a. happy hormones, and those endorphins can work wonders on your confidence.
9. Invest in personal growth
Low self-esteem often comes from feeling stuck, like you’re not moving forward in life. But here’s the thing: you have the power to change that.
Learn a new skill, dive into a hobby, or start a personal development journey. And if you’re not sure where to start, why not try journaling? Journaling can help you uncover what’s holding you back, track your growth, and dream bigger for yourself. I’ve created a free journaling template that makes it easy to get started—you can grab it here.
Overcoming low self-esteem isn’t about becoming someone else—it’s about uncovering the amazing person you already are. It’s a journey, not a sprint, and every step you take is a step closer to the confident, badass version of yourself.
So start small, be patient, and don’t forget: You’re worth every bit of effort you put into yourself. See you next time for another Soulution!
